Brit Windle

Words mold us. From an early age words form who we become as people whether we realize it or not. A parent, teacher, mentor, friend, or even stranger can say words that will either empower or kill.

I remember as a young child a boy at church running by me and saying," You're ugly!"

I can't forget when my dad once said, "I'm surprised you got that job."

An ex-boyfriend once told me,  "If you would lose weight, you would look much better."

I've had even more harsh words said to me that I'd rather not say.

While I sit here like a victim, I am embarrassed to say that I have thrown daggers at those whom I love as well. I don't even want to think about what I have said.

Unfortunately, sometimes we say things just to get a reaction- so the deadliest phrase is said without thought of the repercussions. Sometimes we say things out of insecurities. Whatever the excuse, it's never justified.

It has taken me years to learn how to shut up in an argument. I'm a talker; so naturally, when I argue, I'm good with words (this is something to not be proud of). After seeing the hurt I have caused through anger, I have learned and still learning to filter what I say---to shut up!

I am also learning to get past my past; to forgive those who've hurt me through words.

The funny thing is I rarely remember the positive. Why is the negative so much more pronounced? However, I know throughout my life, I have been uplifted more than not.

No matter what people think of you, it's important that you know who you are! Once you have come to an acceptance of who you know you are, words will roll right off your back. Gaining confidence in yourself will also give you more perspective of others and why they are choosing to hurt with words.

Confidence is beautiful. Make a list of your beautiful attributes.

Start it out with "I am..." It will be hard to write down because we often are embarrassed to brag on ourselves. But if you don't believe in yourself, then who will?

I'll start it out:

I am....
strong
loyal
kind
passionate
driven
hard working
a good friend

Will you join me? Post this logo to your blog and make a list of your beautiful attributes.